It's been one of those weeks. Where things are kinda happening but nothing really seems noteworthy or interesting.
I went to the California Pizza Kitchen yesterday for dinner with a friend. We talked about relationships and the problems that come along with guys who are 'in love' with girls while barely dating (or not even dating lol). The key problems being that they are not in their right minds, and things they say and things they do are not honestly from them. They come from a desire to be seen in a favorable light from the object of their affection. I think this happens a LOT to people, more often than we like to admit. I think we as a society enjoy the idea of 'love' so much we turn a blind eye to unhealthy infatuation. Love is one of those miss-categorized and marketed words that it's not surprising that we throw it around to mean whatever it is we're feeling. We have such a drought of words to describe the many stages of 'like' and 'care about' that it's very difficult to not to jump to 'love' when the previous words fail. Infatuation in my mind is unhealthy if you don't realize you are in fact, infatuated. It's worth the time to think about I think.
Some people are infatuated with being 'in love'. I admit that I have been, though when I figured out what love was, I grew out of that. I still yearn for that spark many mislabel love, I am not misplacing my priorities because of it however. And I don't secretly 'love' the girls I feel that with. I learned what love was on my mission, where hopefully other guys like me (romantics they call us) can and will learn it. It is a terrible existence thinking you're in love with someone without it being reciprocated, it is much more tolerable when you recognize it's not love, and can properly use the right vocabulary to describe it. Misusing 'love' can be very damaging (personal experience hehe) for a time. It's important to understand that 'love' is not on the end of the scale of 'like'. They are completely different scales, you don't progress down the Like Scale to eventually hit Love at the top in big red letters. Love is a choice we make whether we are at the end of the Like Scale or not. Anyway, that's my opinion.
And I think in the end it just takes time to grow up. To mature past the point where you feel like one person can solve all your problems (and their problems) if they would just give in and be with you. For some reason I'm fascinated with the developments of relationships, and young people are the most unstable and interesting lol.
Seeing as it's just married people reading this, I'm sure this was probably pretty boring, obvious and even wrong here or there. I've had these thoughts for a while, but, it's a new post, so no whining!
