In a tangent of a previous post, I often think about finding happiness in my life where I can. From a psychologist point of view, we shouldn't need another person in order to feel happy or fulfilled. Since there are enough people in the world who don't have a partner I have to believe that God didn't mean for us to be hopeless if we don't have a "better half" (in the physical sense of being alone, you can't have fulfilling conversations with the spirit no matter how hard you may try hah). I like to think about this because I, like most people I believe, enjoy justifying the decisions and thoughts I have are planned or chosen by wisdom or some crap haha. But anyway, I am torn between the fulfillment that another can provide and reaching some sort of "personal zen" where I can be content with which ever situation I may find myself in. But the more I think about this the more I realize it's just really impossible. If life never stops how could you ever quantify "now" and figure out the maximum amount of happiness from it? You can't, no one second is ever the same, even if nothing changes for you. The fact that nothing has change is change it's self - dealing with perpetual normalty is just as difficult as changes.
But in the end I can feel the need for true companionship, that men and women can't be 100% without each other. That we, as individuals, can make believe to reach some sort of "personal zen" of contentment, but our level of completion is really limited, even if we max out our possible happiness for that one moment. Even though most couples don't ever exist on the 100% plane often, they DO get to be there, which an individual would never truly obtain (I'm guessing I've reached an 70-80% of max possibly happiness in my life at one time) And obviously consistancy is important, sustaining a high percent is where people feel "happy" in their lives, peaks are not enough. Or maybe they're on completely different scales and comparing the two is irrelevant. It's very interesting to me however.
Sorry if this was a really nerdy scientific look on the Proclamation to the Family. But I find I must investigate even the "obvious" truths we proclaim. Too often I hear what sounds like "truth" and accept it without really looking at it.
